Ways to deal with selfish people
Selfishness is only about caring for their own needs and thoughts without caring about the thoughts and needs of the other person. Self-reflection should not be confused with selfishness. Self-thinking behavior is healthy behavior, but self-reflection is selfish if it is performed by ignoring the needs of others.
WHAT ARE THE REASONS OF THE SELF?
Selfishness can be a learned behavior in our childhood. Children learn by watching and imitating. Selfish behavior is learned from the person we take role model as a child. Therefore, our childhood memories are of great importance. According to cognitive psychology; it can be caused by schemas. It is about how one identifies and sees himself.
How to deal with selfish people?
Selfish people consider their own needs more important than the needs of the other person. They find it difficult to adapt to matters that require cooperation, and they have trouble accepting criticism. So how can we deal with selfish people? To cope, we must first know ourselves very well. We must recognize our own thoughts and schemes so that we can cope. We can set limits between them to deal with selfish people. If you have trouble setting these limits, it is high time to look at our own diagrams. Some people have “sacrifice, undermining” schemes. These schemes say, “Why are you there? or “How can I change these schemes?” If we ask ourselves questions, we become more empowered to deal with selfish people.
Selfish people can blame you and experience an explosion of anger when they do not have their own thoughts and desires. In such cases, you should not hesitate to explain your own ideas. If you do not explain yourself by taking it from the bottom, the person in front of you will continue this behavior because it will think it is correct.
Selfish people can come to you when they don’t want to. To deal with selfish people who practice provocation, you should not use the language he uses. You should always be yourself and get away from the person you are disturbed by provocation.
You may notice that selfish people are not listening to you while chatting. They just want to continue their own topics. In this case, you can change the direction of the chat by opening more general topics.